Lulu, I suggested, that it might be a good idea to attend the sessions as I had been told that a few things had changed within the last 12 months or so.
I don't know if she did go or not? I haven't seen her since.

I had a chat with DH about it and was telling him about the conversation. I was saying how I thought it was wrong that she was blaming the school/teacher etc, and then how i felt like maybe I was too judgemental of her, and then I began to wonder to DH if I/we "overparent" in a way? Are we too involved? It made me question mine and DH's parenting in a way. It's nice to come in here and read that I'm normal. Plus, like DH and you girls have said, if they've been through it already with #1, she should have been able to see some signs (you would think) with #2, or go to the teacher and have a chat. It's suppose it's not like it is something that just popped up one day.. SURPRISE!

Thanks for your input girls. Nice to read others thoughts

Nic