Hmm... Tough decision to make..

I'm not really sure what I would do.. It sounds like the school is being far from supportive in regards to your DD's needs. Why have they refused to do any professional development, do you know? Just seems so strange to me.

Could you call the Steiner school and ask if your position could be moved forward?

I guess I would leave her in school at the moment, finishing at lunch time. I would try to communicate more with the teacher, as you suggested, provide information for her.. Does she have a communication book?? Write your concerns in their. DD only ate 8 grapes today, could you possibly note this to staff on duty to encourage her to eat more?? Add information on why she shakes, "she is anxious, ask yourself what is making her feel this way". Give yourself a set time, if things haven't improved by x amount of time, I am going to do this (combination of ENKI and school).

For me - I would leave pulling her out completely as my last option. School (when done correctly) could be great for her. Its just a shame that her teacher seems a bit vague on the whole thing. Such a shame.. But with that said - If it needs to be done, and she is regressing far too much, then I'm 100% with you on pulling her out.

Sorry if this is scattered, but you did ask for my thoughts, hehe.

Good luck with your decision x