Thanks Mayaness!
you always seem to have some good advice here!

Well, we had no2 - a DD2, now 11 days old. I haven't tried to hold her on a pot yet, still getting used to the "floppy newborn" (I forgot how little and fragile they are!!!), but I have been cuing with her when I do nappy changes, and she always pees and poops as soon as the nappy is off.

I have another question about DD1 though. Not long after my last post, she had an episode of constipation (she had roseola fever and I think it was due to having the paracetamol for a few days). Anyway, her first poop was very hard and like a small orange (sorry if TMI) and she cried when she did it. Now she seems quite scared of pooping, and she seems to avoid it at all costs, holding on till the very last minute, and then going either in her nappy or on the floor on the way to the potty. She used to like to just sit on the pot and go while reading, but now poos are a bit of an ordeal. I think she has a bad memory and is scared it will hurt again, but not sure how to move past this, any suggestions?
otherwise, going OK, and now wearing "big girl undies" and going most days without accidents.