it would really depend on the context, as others have mentioned. if you've got no money cos he witholds it as a way to control you, and then hits you - hell yeah, that would be the straw that broke the camels back

if you have no money because you're struggling financially as a couple, it would be different - i'd have to look at WHY - is it out of character to hit out - is there the potential for a mental illness or something? if he accepted that what he did was wrong, and agreed to seek help (therapy/meds/investigation) then i would CONDITIONALLY stick it out. if he didn't think he'd done anything wrong, then i would leave

centrelink have social workers that can help in a crisis situation. not everyone can get advances of payments, but the social workers have contacts within charities and welfare organisations that can help you leave if you need to.

i definitely wouldn't let my financial situation be the make or break of me going - if i needed to leave cos i felt unsafe, then i'd find a way to go. womens refuges exist for a reason


Schmickers - you're right - violence against men isn't recognised anywhere near as much as it should be. i admire you being honest enough to admit that you'd consider your children in whether you leave - i guess for many of us we assume that the person being abused would leave and take their kids - not always so easy when the abuser is the female partner...