Hey hun. I have an ex that sounds very much like yours. He never physically abused me but everything else he did. I feel bad for that girl but hun, if it were my ex, its just not worth the risk. Theres chances that if you contact that girl, she wouldnt listen anyway.. i had everyone telling me how bad my ex was but i wouldnt listen.. i had to find out for myself. So it may be the same for that girl. Hopefully she too will find the light too, but i guess you have to think about whats most important in your life now and protect that first, before someone you dont know, iykwim.