It took a long time, and I'm still not there 100%.

Pregnancy has been very confronting for me, as prior to this I had finally managed to get my health, weight etc under control to the point where I was happy (size 14 or so). I've only gone up to a size 16 and massive belly LOL but this does shatter me sometimes.

Being determined not to be unhappy helped if that makes sense. I would say to myself (before baby) Well this is me, this is what my husband sees and he loves me for it or my body is growing another person, of course its going to change. Positive statements in my head. I really found by verbailising negative statements they made them reality. Whatever you say your brain believes, and it does seem to work like that so I try to limit any of that. Instead replace thes with things like, I am who I am becuase of x, I am a good and worthwile person.

I must confess I don't like to always look at my pregnant self in the mirror, sometimes it makes me really sad becuase of all the hard work I did. And half the time I force myself becuase it does make it easier to deal with, and puts things into persepctive. Looking at yourself, blows away alot of those mind created images that we tend to hide from.

(I would kill to be a size 10 BTW! LOL)

I'm no answer tree but I hope I helped a little Reality is never as bad as what your mind thinks it is.