I am not sure what the answer is hun but I do have to say that it is amazing your perception can vary to what other people think as well... Yesterday my DH and I were out and saw a girl who I thought looked pretty cute but she was in shorts and thongs (we were in the country and it was freezing!!!) anyway DH made a less than complementary comment to my comment about how silly she was wearing summer clothes on a day of around 13 degrees. The conversation went on with me saying something about how if he thought that she was fat then he must think I was ginormous.... Turns out he thought she was bigger than me and I disagreed blah blah. Saw her later and she was definitely not fat but when I really looked at her realised she would have been bigger than me.

It was a bit of an eye opener for me - similar to when I watch Gok and he does the line up and woman ALWAYS think they look bigger than what they actually are!! Anyway not sure I am much help but I have realised that what I think I look like is actually a bit different to what others see. Pre kids I was a size 10-12 and am now a 14 down bottom and 12 up top so really not that much different but I still see myself at my heaviest post kids when I was pushing a size 16. Love to hear what others say and how you get on the road to simply loving who you are and accepting your body post-pg.