Came across this article, so have put it in its own thread: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...2/#post3354543

Reading that, it seems I do forgive. Whilst I don't actually say to the person 'hey I forgive you for your actions that hurt me", I do the other aspects of forgiveness. I think I was focused on forgiving being the verbalising, when really that is a small component.