I thought spidey too!

But WRT birth choice: it ain't a choice if you're told that something will happen with or without your consent. It ain't a choice to be told "if you agree to a section you can push for another half-hour, if you don't we'll take you into theatre and just do it straight away." The choice is... be violated whichever option you choose and if you go for the first then hey, your choice, your fault. (If you've been in labour for over 24 hours you're not thinking about if everything you're told is true when you're threatened, believe me!) I'd rather not know than forget, because you really kick yourself for that one. It was my responsibility and I didn't live up to it. Rather than "I did the best I could with the information at the time." "I didn't know" is a nice excuse to keep!

BUT... I did make a choice. I did make a choice to enter the hospital. I forgot I could leave at any time and they couldn't keep me in, as they told me they could... but that was still a choice.

Also, I make choices about work, food, life... every day. My choices, my call so MY fault. It's my fault if my parenting style means I have a respectful, intelligent and kind son. It's my fault if he's a spoilt brat because of how I raise him. It's my fault if I skip lunch/dinner. Yes, there are other things to do... there are ALWAYS other things to do and not eating for 12 hours is a silly choice and that's my responsibility.

I don't understand people who always blame others for EVERYTHING... I know I do for some things (like, it's not my choice to feel upset because no-one buys me a house... when in fact it is, even if I don't know how to move past that). But some things, some actions... it's your own fault!