core values

[Nai]

DP and I got together after we had both been through marriage breakups so we were very open about our values and discussed them upfront.

- bringing up children and doing everything possible to ensure that they are resilient, responsible, caring, contributing members of society
- environmental awareness and try to reduce our carbon footprint
- ethical treatment of people and animals
- respect for each other
- support each other in making decisions
- not living beyond our means
- Honesty and Trust
- Openness in communication

[~*lilla*~]

We share beliefs on:

politics- both labour voters with preference to greens
environment
parenting and discipline - my mother was a tyrant and his mother was too soft, we try to meet in the middle, and believe there needs to be some room for them too move. BUT, letting them get away with everything long term is only hurting them
legal - both don't believe in the death penalty except in extreme circumstances like pedohiles and premeditated murder with severe violence etc
social class/money - we both HATE materialism and how large amounts of money change people. We are happy with little

Probably the only core belief we don't share is religion. I'm firmly athiest, DH is agnostic. But we both respect each others opinions.

[widdly]

wow great replies everyone.

thankyou Jennifer for moving the thread for me

flowerchild, loved reading your response, I am learning lots reading this thread

[Bathsheba]

I just thought I would add some of the "values" we don't aspire to:

Materialism: We don't care much about keeping up with Jones. We don't care about being seen in an Op Shop. We don't care what car we drive just as long as it is safe and it works.

We try not to value the Bright Sparkly Brand New: We like old things that wear well with age. We know that buying new things creates demand and depletes the Earth's resources. Happy to shop at Cash Converters for most things as a type of recycling. If we built a home it would be from recycled materials as much as possible.

We don't value rampant self promotion (ie inflated egos). We both struggle with celebrities and sports stars that have inflated egos. We agree that self respect is healthy but follow the old saying "Pride Cometh Before A Fall".