i'm not exactly miss self confidence but a few years ago i decided that i would make a conscious decision to learn to like/love myself. sounds kinda weird but we are most definitely our harshest judges & i think sometimes it needs to be a conscious decision to stop being so hard on ourselves. i figured if i made an effort to like myself, then other people would too.

it's an ongoing process & for me there are still so many niggling self-doubt issues but i think it's an important journey. you have to be open to it though. sometimes it's easier to stay full of self-doubt because then you never disappoint yourself - itms? because once you open yourself to the possibility that you are, actually, quite a cool & rewarding person to know (and from what i've seen of you online, i have NO doubt that you are!) then it kinda makes you vulnerable.

i think it's a self-fulfilling prophecy a bit in a way too - if you don't like much about yourself, it makes it harder for other people to see the fantastic person you are. but if you start to acknowledge the great things about yourself, then other people will see them too. maybe start by not putting yourself down to other people or yourself - so if someone says come over, i'd love to see you accept that at face value. they do want to see you & banish any little voices that start telling you things like they're just being polite etc.

make a list of things you've done well - the VBA2C should be way up there. and yes, you can do it again. it wasn't a fluke.

argh - am i making any sense at all? sorry, it's a bit all over the place.