Learning how to stop being impulsive...

[C~Q]

Me again!

I've figured out that one of my main problems...or issues is that I tecd to do things because in the moment they feel good. But afterwards...not so much.

I tell myself I won't do something, and then when the oppertunity presents itself I immediately think "but that'll be fun, I want to do it, stuff it i'll do it".

i think my life would be a lot sensibler (lol) if I could gain the ability to say in my head "no, thats not in your best interests in the long run".

So does anyone else do this? Any ideas how to sto myself from doing it?

Anything would help!

TIA x

[Teeki]

Oh we do this all the time! With buying stuff. We've bought a few cars on impulse, and if we go somewhere for a day (to the city, visit in-laws or whatever), it just doesn't feel right if we haven't bought something. Usually something we don't exactly need, and isn't exactly cheap...

Sorry, I don't have any advice as I haven't overcome it either! If you discover the secret let me know lol

[Lulu]

Just don't do it.

I don't think there is more to it. If you really have a problem, if it's one thing in particular then don't put yourself in the situation that you will have to make the decision.

[Teeki]

Just don't do it.

I don't think there is more to it. If you really have a problem, if it's one thing in particular then don't put yourself in the situation that you will have to make the decision.

Good point. We've found that when we're off to see in-laws or go to the city, if we know exactly what we're going for and avoid everything else it's easier. We still want to buy something, but can avoid it. Also if you take more time to consider if you *really* need or want to do something, you might decide don't actually need/want it

[C~Q]

I Don't know if its as simple as that. It's not one thing, it's pretty much me and my nature. I just don't want to be that person anymore, I want to be sensible and be able to stand back and think about how things effect my future, not just that moment.

[Tinks]

Also if you take more time to consider if you *really* need or want to do something, you might decide don't actually need/want it

This is a good point.

Before you do something impulsive think about whether it's something you 'need' to do as opposed to 'want' to do. If it's something you need, go for it. If it's a want, think twice.

[Enchanted]

I can be a bit of a shocker for this. I try and work off the method of... If you see something and like it, walk away and leave it. If you still really want/need it the next day go back and get it. Usually stops me!