I have a 14yo DD and she actually makes me feel quite proud of her attitudes on this subject. Even though she was given Barbie and Bratz dolls as a child she doesn't seem to have grown up with the unhealthy ideas they seem to promote. She has never dressed inappropriately, infact she is quite modest in her choice of clothes.

I put it down to me me being fairly modest and actually saying that something is inappropriate when it clearly is. Scantily clad women and men, unless they are on the beach, make me feel uncomfortable. You don't do the shopping in a bikini top with trackies around your hips and the top of your g-string showing... you just don't. It's got nothing to do with feeling comfortable in your own body it's about appropriateness. These days I don't usually have to say anything... my DD will get in before me and say something to me under her breath like "hello... you don't dress like that while doing the shopping" LOL Now having said that if my DD wanted to sunbake with only a g-string on a beach in the south of France and every other woman was doing it then fine... but I think that people have become so protective of their perceived 'rights' that they have forgotten to consider whether something is appropriate or not. Say the word "appropriate" these days and you might as well say you are a wet blanket as far as most people are concerned

I'm not loud and outspoken when I tell my children that I think something is inappropriate I just quietly share my thoughts between them and myself. DH does the same. We hug and show affection infront of the children too... because it's an example of a healthy relationship but we don't shove it down their throats.

"Dignity" is the word that springs to mind... these days you'd think it was a dirty word. But it's what we role model and so far we are happy that our children are growing up with this value. The early sexualisation of children and the huge commercial monster sex has become in our society is basically a stripping down of people's dignity. I could go on about what that means, who benefits etc but that's probably a topic for another thread.