I absolutely agree honey. I have slowly been removing "should" from my vocabulary. In responses to others & in reference to myself. Because what should be is what is... All is perfect even if it's hard for us to see that when we're right in the middle of it..

So, when I say "should" or I think someone else "should" I correct myself with "actually all is perfectly perfectt!" (it's incorrect English & it causes me to giggle!!! )

The same with I have a girlfriend who asks when someone looks worried: "what's wrong"... I know it sounds perfectly benign but nothing is really wrong... There is an emotion of sadness, guilt, embaassment, frustration etc etc but its' not "wrong"...

Do you think I think too much???