Are You Keyhole Judging? (An Edward de Bono inspired scenario)

[Astrid]

I think this is interesting. Whilst we need to be aware of when we are keyhole judging, but also of when we let others keyhole judge us. We need to be aware of the picture we give out and how that will affect the behaviour others show towards us.

For example, if only put forward a happy front, the people will assume that we have no problems and maybe not see that you really need help right now. The same if we always complain, then others will just keep on telling us to do something about it, when if fact you may be happy with your situation, just grumpy about parts of it.

I think responsibility does go both ways with judging, it just cannot be lumped on the judger that they only looking through a keyhole, when infact that is all they are being given to look at.

ETA: Just though I would add that I am talking in general about the concept of keyhole judging. Not directly about any posts or situations on the forum.