This is a subject that I am quite torn on because it encompasses so much.

On judging on others, I think it is human nature to do so, but I try and make a conscious effort not to do so, because I think until you have walked in the shoes of another, you have no right to pass comment about how they choose to live their life. I am a very firm believer in what ever works for you, just because what is right for me isn't right for you doesn't mean it is wrong- and I get so angry when others judge and attack others, especially women against other women, because they have made decisions for their lives and lives of their families, and get torn down and attacked because it doesnt sit well with the view of someone else. When is it that as a community of women we are going to applaud our fellow wives and mothers, for doing what they can to give the best life for their family, even if it isn't what you would choose for yours. Is it that we are so scared of being judged for how we live ours, that we attack to protect our own beliefs, rather than feel comfortable enough in our decisions to say- it's ok, I did what I thought was best at the time?

On the topic of abortion- certainly a murky topic. I have a few thoughts, I agree that it shouldn't be a form of birth control- like many say if we are responsible enough to have sex, then yes we are responsible enough for the consequences, like others say sometimes in the heat of the moment things happen, I am currently carrying a heat of the moment baby, but I am a happily married, financially secure wife and mother, I wouldn't have dreamt of having an abortion this time- however I can't say the same if circumstances were different, because I am not in different circumstances.

I do agree with others about the rights of the child- i honestly and whole heartedly do, but the rights of a child go beyond conception and birth, the rights of a child go right through until they are old enough to take responsibility of their own lives. So if a women falls pregnant in a violent or abusive relationship, or in other circumstances that might effect the life of the child, then I think if she has an abortion she is still protecting the rights of that child. I have seen some children, especially in the last 6 months or so, that have been subjected to some horrors, that no human being should have to endure- especially not a young child, and how badly it has effected them. And while I am not saying that each of those mothers should have had an abortion, what I am saying, is that if a mother makes a choice for her unborn child by having an abortion if she is in that situation, I think she is still protecting the rights of that child.
So no it is not a black and white case, it is not always about right now, and sometimes it is about trusting women enough to know just what is right for them.