Having supported a number of friends through terminations I would never ever judge another person for making this decision - yes, it is hard, yes they have made mistakes but they have lived with the consequences and it has changed who they are forever. My friend and I were talking just the other day about how she could be the mother of a 20yo and could have been tied to a person she despises for the rest of her life. However, she was able to move on and create a new life for herself based on that decision so whilst it was hard, some good did come from it. Another friend had to terminate based on becoming pregnant after being raped, should she have to carry around that reminder for the rest of her life, what about the child in the future asking about the father and being a product of violence? Again, who am I to judge? I am there to support a friend in her difficult decision.

It isn't a choice I have ever had to make but I have seen 5 friends in very different circumstances - bad relationship, rape, incompatible with life, young, psychologically unstable - make the decision to terminate. Unless you are walking in their shoes you can never fully understand why someone makes the decision that they do. Until I can fully understand I will reserve judgement and hope that I never have to be in that position myself.