Leash, if you don't want any more children now there is no reason to do so. Wait a while and see if your thinking changes. Tell Shel you don't know if you want to go back for #2 quite so soon.

We made a decision before our DD that we would wait 4 or 5 years for #2. After DD I was convinced I wanted 3, 1 more than our original thoughts. DP is now sure that he would be happy to stop at one, but by the same token knows I want at least one more. It's a compromise on both our sides, since I know he will not have more than 2 unless something changes drastically in our lives (like winning lotto!) and he knows I do want to have another.

GL with talking to Shel.