I COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from Leasha.

If it wasn't for my age, I would be very happy to wait until DD goes to school before having another. I absolutely love being able to spend so much one-on-one time with her that I can't imagine not being able to read her a book/go for a walk whenever we feel like it if I also had a newborn to take care of. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so if I think about it in advance, it strikes me that I would be dividing my attention between two and to me that FEELS a bit half-arsed. Now, I'm sure that if and when it actually happens I won't actually feel I'm doing a half-arsed job, I'll feel like I'm doing a no-arsed job some days and a kick-arse job on others. But that's just the way the mind works when it thinks too much. And my mind can always see cons more easily that it sees pros.

Alas, my age means that we can't delay.

As the others have said, if you're not feeling supported by Shel that would have to weigh very heavily on your mind too.

There's no rulebook to say that you have to TTC next year. You can change your mind (and change it back again) - so take the pressure off yourself a bit.