I kind of felt the same. I knew I wanted more then one as i wanted Kayla to have a sibling especially when she is an adult and DH and I have passed. But when DH said he was ready to try for #2 when Kayla was 14months old I just wasn't ready. I (like you) wasn't ready to give up my 1 on 1 time with Kayla and really she was only still a baby herself.

Anyway, so we waited untill I felt that feeling again. The feeling of wanting a child (or in this case another child). I waited untill I got clucky again. Kayla will be 3.5 when this bub is born and I am very happy with this gap. She is quite independent, understands me, can help me out, is out of nappies etc etc. I will be able to involve her with caring for her sister. She will have different needs to her sister, iykwim, which i think will make it a bit easier.

So my advice is, go with your feelings. Wait untill you are ready. Don't worry about age gaps etc as they all have their pros and cons. You are still young (like me ) and don't need to rush. Just enjoy your gorgeous princess for now and you will know when you are ready.