Aren't we all good mothers?

Why the competitiveness? Aren't we all good mothers?

If you birthed your baby naturally are you a better mother?

If you sleep with your baby are you a better mother?

If your baby never cries are you a better mother?

If your baby sleeps by the time they are 6 mths old are you a better mother?

If you breastfeed your baby are you a better mother?

If you don't use disposable nappies are you a better mother?

If your baby doesn't have tantrums are you a better mother?

If your baby walks, talks, toilet trains early are you a better mother?

If your baby is independant are you a better mother?

If you never go back to work or put your child in child care are you a better mother?

If your baby wears brand names are you a better mother?

If you are always happy being a mother are you a better mother?

If your house is always clean are you a better mother?

If you are a good cook, and always bake are you a better mother?

I look back at my childhood, and I look at my mother and I don't think any of these things would make me think "Gee I love my mum, look what she did for me". When I think of the things I wanted from my mother, I wanted love. Pure plain and simple, to be loved unconditionally, to be thought of to be a priority in her life. I was bottle fed and I slept alone in my cot from very early on, I was smacked, I tantrumed and I can even remember having accidents as a kid. Now none of these things make me look back and think... I had a bad mother. So why do we think that of ourselves or others?

We are all good mothers no matter how we parent, and just because some people do things differently doesn't make it wrong it just makes us individuals and a product of choice, thank goodness for that. We all want whats best for our children and I don't think anyone thinks "I'm going to give my child a bottle because I don't love them enough to breastfeed" Nor do I look at someone else and think "She mustn't love her child because she puts him in childcare". I thought we were trying to become more tolerant not less.

We are all good mothers!
Great list.....You got me thinking!!