Bath time with big brother

[Sammiejane]

Not sure where to ask the question, Mods please move if there is somewhere more appropriate.

DSS is 10 years old and lives most of the time at his mums (he is with us every other weekend plus 1/2 school hols).
he adores his little sister, Molly Jane, and wants to be involved with everything when he is with us.

We let him bath her a couple of weeks ago - as in both in the bath together, but a couple of people raised their eye brows at us when they were told.
Is this wrong?
He is aware that both his Dad and I will bath or shower with Molly Jane. He still sees his Dad naked at times but not me anymore (that stoped only when i was pg thou), he would see there being no difference.
He is not sexually aware yet.. and to be honest i hadnt even hough of it in that way and am saddened that i am having to ask.

Advise please - anyone else had a similar situation? I think had DSS been a DSD i wouldnt have had raised eyebrows

Thanks

[MrsFabuloso]

If you have no problems with it, don't worry what others think. Other people don't know your life or your step son like you do. I used to bathe with my brothers who are 7 and 8 yrs older than me, up until I was about 3 or so and only stopped cause they wanted their privacy. Children grow up all too quickly nowadays. It's sweet that he wants to be part of his sisters life and help out. I would let him, he's only a little boy! As you say if he was a she, there's be no problem. And I'm sure he wouldn't be left alone with a tiny baby anyhow, you'd be thereall the time, so no worries. He's gonna grow up soon anyway and will want privacy.

[Phteven]

I think it's lovely that he wants to help out and be involved with his little sister and I don't see anything wrong with him bathing with her.
In just a few years he'll hit puberty and then he'll probably want his privacy anyway. In the meantime they're building a great bond and he'll be in a position to be a great mentor to her in years to come.

[MantaRay]

Personally I don't see any problem with it. In a couple of years if they want to play in his bedroom with the door shut, well that's a different story. But a 10yo should be able to bath with a younger sister no worries. If you get any funny reactions, just don't talk about it. I think it's sad though that it has to be like that.

[Rouge]

I think being in the bath is fine, I wouldn't worry about any inappropriate sexual behaviour but I might be adverse to leaving an older child alone in a bath with a month old for safety reasons. On the off chance bubba fell and bumped their head or slipped under water that would be my only concern.

[C~Q]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Whenever we have friends round for drinks or a BBQ or whatever, when it gets to that time we have all the kids jump in the bath together. Last weekend there was 2 girls (15months and 5rs) and 3 boys (3, 6 and 8).
It's sad we have to worry about what people think and even sadder what they are thinking