This sounds like a very stressful situation Baby Socks and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this right now. From what you've said, I think you need to have a proper talk with him. It sounds like he's making it pretty clear that he's very resentful about being a father and doesn't feel ready.

At some point, he's going to need to make a decision about whether he wants to do this or not. Yes, give him space and time to adjust but he's actually got to want to give it a shot too.

I'd be asking your parents to babysit for a night and have a proper talk about this. Try to concentrate on what you're going to do from now on rather than what's already happened. Try to do it calmly - it's hard to reach agreement if both parties are getting worked up.

I guess you also need to figure out if you want to be with him if he doesn't want to be a father. That's your decision and yours only. But I have seen mums try to compensate for the father's lack of involvement, do everything themselves and have to spend SO much energy trying to get their partner to do the smallest thing for/with their children. I know myself that I couldn't cope with that scenario - I would rather be on my own and make my own decisions than constantly have to try to persuade a slackarse partner to lift their game. But I'm talking about when their children are toddlers - not this early.

So it's early days BabySocks - try talking and lots of talking first. It might also be useful to go and see a counsellor together.

I wish you and your daughter all the very best. Take it from an old fart, things normally work out for the best - not necessarily how we think they will turn out, but generally for the best.