Do you enjoy being a SAHM?

[Lolli]

I am, most days, bored, lonely and restless. i miss feeling like I was doing something important, I miss adult company. I get so frustrated with the constant trvia of dealing with a little kid.

At other times, i feel grateful and blessed that I am able to do this, to be at home and watch my little man grow. I'm lucky I don't have to go work, plus have all the responsibilities of running a home that i have now.

Indeed, a double edged sword.

Rory, I love that passage too. That's the way I think of it- this time in my life is my 'mummy and little kids time' and soone neough that will flow into something else.

[BeautifulMadness]

Yes i do love it but i do miss being out in the real world with adults. But my studies now give me some sort of being. so by the time my boys are @ school and kinder i can get a job

[Mak]

Love it some days and hate it others. I am on leave and am headed back to work in October so am trying to squeeze as much as I can into this time (and remember that there is only one shot for each moment). For me it is important to get a break from the kids occasionally and also have some company during the week....sometimes harder to do than others.

[SammyRo]

I love being a SAHM ...but I dislike the mundanity of every day! I hate housework (I'm glad I'm not the only one!!) so my house is always not the tidiest around, I frequently rely on ABC Kids or the Wiggles to grab some sanity , and I feel my brain is way past mush - I get really nervous meeting DH at work things (he's a lawyer) and I rarely talk! I have my moments when I think that it would be much better if i go back to work and put DD in childcare - because surely that would be more beneficial than yet another stint of the wiggles and I think that I'm no good at being a SAHM because the house is never tidy, dinner isn't always cooked, and the washing is not done.

But, in another moment, I think I don't want to hand the raising of my DD to some one else (and this is in no means a personal attack on anyone who does childcare - like I always say, you do whatever works for you and noone else - everyone's situation is different). Its hard and I really don't feel I get the same respect I would if I'd gone back to work, but being with DD and watching her do something new is fantastic, and knowing I'm the special person in her life is priceless - she's started calling most of the men in our family Dad- and DH was saying earlier that he wonders when she will realise that he is a bit more special than say my dad - because he's not always around (he works really long hours and plays sport on top of that). But there's no chance that she'll get me confused with someone else because I'm her primary carer.

DD is begining to get more interactive (although it can still be reptitive - sorting shapes gets boring after 10 minutes for me!) and I'm looking forward to doing crafty stuff and painting and baking. And I'm really not a SAHM - if I can find an excuse to get out of the house, I do!

[amberj]

I get a great deal of satisfaction out of being home- BUT, I couldn't do it full time. I run my own business which will suck up as much of my time as I could give it, so I have plenty of external stimulation. Too much, actually, I wish I had more just "home time". But I know I need both to be happy.

All I'm saying is, I don't think women are divided into two categories- satisfied by home or satisfied by work. Like most things, there is a continuem. I think we need to work out where we fall on that and do what we can to have a sah/work balance that meets where we sit (I know very well indeed that this is not always possible!). There is definately some truth in 'happy mama, happy bubba'.

[kelebek]

I am, most days, bored, lonely and restless. i miss feeling like I was doing something important, I miss adult company. I get so frustrated with the constant trvia of dealing with a little kid.

At other times, i feel grateful and blessed that I am able to do this, to be at home and watch my little man grow. I'm lucky I don't have to go work, plus have all the responsibilities of running a home that i have now.

Indeed, a double edged sword.

Rory, I love that passage too. That's the way I think of it- this time in my life is my 'mummy and little kids time' and soone neough that will flow into something else.

:yeahthat:
I also think Rory hit the nail on the head as I was often bored being SAHM and was relieved when I first went back to work parttime for the past 4 mnths. But I found I hated work most of the time and idealised being at home. Now that I am a SAHM mum again I am a little daunted. I hate housework, I don't cook, I hate washing... love spending time with DS but it can be very boring haha all the things I forgot about.

Does anyone know how to find that motivation for housework - how to find that satisfaction?

This time I have set some ground rules about having 'me' time at least once a week, if he gets a weekend then he can share it

[BekZ]

After being a SAHM for 4 years and having 3 kids cabin fever has finally hit me. Going back to work is not an option for me so I will be doing some short courses next year to keep me sane.