I totally understand not having family around means the task of raising our kids falls entirely on our own shoulders much more than perhaps it should. Feel free to share with your cyber-friends any time!
Thanks Jennifer. It really helps to have all the unbiased oppinions & different pieces of advice.
DH & I are talking about him moving out for a while. That way we can get the one on one time with her. eg, she stays with him one night & the other 2 stay with him the next night.
It would also mean he isn't around her as much, so he might not lose his temper with her as easy.
I do realise that it might make things worse. If it does then he would come back home, its just hard to do the relaxed, calm thing when he can't. & he can't stay out of it when I'm trying.
I dunno if it will happen. Just an idea.
Wow that's a pretty intense solution Skye! Would he consider going to see a counsellor to give him some tips on how to not take anger/frustration out on others? If your daughter's going to his place, and they're very much like each other, they'd be in each others pockets then with no other people to distract them.
Would a father/daughter date work? My dad took us out on dates, and it was great. We felt really special. Also they can't yell at each other (well, they're less likely to) if they're out in public.
Skye, I'm not in your shoes, but I think that having her father move out might make your daughter more insecure about the people who love her. I honestly don't think that will help. Nelle has some good suggestions, I think - try some family/couple's counselling, and some father-daughter dates. (Some mummy-daddy dates are always nice too. )
Hope all goes well for you honey. All the best!
Skye, obviously you know your family best, but I would think that that's a solution that could have devastating consequences. For all of you. Nelle's idea of some specific father/daughter time sounds good. Maybe you could try something less drastic like that to start with. And yes, if your DH is really struggling with it that much, then counselling sounds like something to look at.
I hate not to sound supportive, but I really think that your DH moving out could really backfire.
I know. I agree with all of you. I just feel like if he's in the house it's impossible, but he has just had a month without work. Maybe now that he's back at work & out of the house through the day it'll get easier.
Plus the dog just got Jaz's kitten, so I really don't think we'll go there. The poor kids heartbroken.
I dunno what to do. It's laying at the back door. I closed the door so she can't see it, but I don't think I can move it. I'm a sook when it comes to that sort of stuff.
OH no! how horrid, im a sook too - we have 2 mice in our pantry that i cant bare to kill (so its now the shelf with all the tinned stuff on... DH will kill them soon.
Can Anth move it?
you are right, maybe with him out of the house more things will be a little better - for them both, he possibly loose his temper so quickly.
I totally understand not having family around means the task of raising our kids falls entirely on our own shoulders much more than perhaps it should. Feel free to share with your cyber-friends any time!
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