My DD1 has had serious behavioral issues for a while now & we are seeing a psycologist to try to sort things out.

The last couple days, I've been so confused & at a loss as to what I should do.

I rarely smack my kids. DH does it more. When they were toddlers I would do it if they were playing with a power point or something else dangerous. But that's about it.

I also swore to myself after seeing some very disrespectful kids that my children would never be like that towards me.

Well, DD1 yells at me, talks back, throws things at me - does not try to hit me though & has raised her hand to me. She is also pretty violent with her sister. Punching, kicking & biting her all the time. I feel like she has no respect at all & it makes me feel like crap.

With disipline I've tried it all. Smacking, time out, ignoring, losing my temper & yelling & screaming, taking things away, trowing things out when they don't get picked up, loving her & praising her as often as possible. I don't know what's left.

The last 2 days I've been thinking about alot of things though.
When talking to my mum last night she was listening to DD1 & said something about how you have to be a parent first & that the child has to have some sort of fear towards you. Even if it is just that they are scared you will yell at them. My DD couldn't really care less how I feel. Yes I know she is 6.

Anyway. I want to point something out.

Over the years parents have stopped smacking. Over the years the world has become a more scary place than ever before. Teens are roaming the streets, having sex & doing drugs alot younger than they used to. Kids have no manners or respect any more. Parents have no control.

I was smacked as a child. So was my brother. When I was a teen I would never have snuck out. Never tried any sort of drug til I was 19 & that was pot. & haven't had it since. The person I lost my virginity to was my now husband at nearly 17. I did have DD1 young, but I was alot more mature at that age than alot of other people are.

Is it because parents have stopped smacking their children & instilling some sort of fear that teens are acting the way they are these days??

My DD2 only has to be told she will get a smack on the bum & she jumps up & does as she's asked.

What are your thoughts? Were you smacked? Do you smack?