Do you think having siblings 5-6 years apart is too much of an age gap???

[~mamaspice~]

Hi there,

Lets just say I am completely torn.

My younger half brother and I are nearly 6 years apart in age (he is the younger one) and we were never close. Hence, I always said that when I had my children I wanted them to be born about 2-3 years apart so they were "closer"

About now is the time to TTC again (well as you can see we have tried this cycle) but I am having second thoughts as to whether the timing is really right. You see, I am a working mum (out of necessity) and it's my passion to go to uni and be a midwife. I always thought I'd have my 2 kiddies then go to uni. But in reality juggling being a mummy to 2, part time work and uni is going to be extremely difficult. Not to mention the cost of having 2 little ones in childcare at the same time.

In my head I definately think that the financial and life balance will be much more do-able if I were to start uni next year and wait until I've finished my degree before giving Charli a sibling. But like I mentioned above, that would mean a 5-6 year age gap and of course I'd be about 36 by then also so TTC may be slightly harder.

Am I being selfish if I decide to go to uni and put baby #2 on hold??? DH is keen to have another one soon because he doesn't want to be an old father (he is 33 )

Help! Your thoughts will be much appreciated.

Thanks for reading.