Good luck sweetie. There is no right or wrong in your situation, and I am thinking of you. You really do have to follow your own instincts and put your family first. Just state your case on the phone, calmly if you can, and the rest is up to her. It is so hard when you end up having to Mother your own Mother. I know you love your Mum sweet, because otherwise it wouldn't be so hard for you. And the other thing I wanted to stress is please, please, please don't feel guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty about, you have your life to live too. At least we have both learnt valuable lessons on how to be Mothers ourselves, even if we have learnt the hard way. I hope things can work out for you, and please try and take some time for yourself, because you deserve it, and you also deserve to enjoy every minute of meeting your new miracle and your gorgeous child!