I guess I am lucky that we don't have conflict on either side and both lots of grandparents get along. Both my parents and ILs are in Cairns so every year we trek up there with all the presents and trek home again after xmas. We make a lot more money than either family so it has just made sense to go to them rather than make them all come down and pay for accommodation and flights. The last couple of years we have done a xmas eve present opening and dinner with my parents and xmas lunch and presents with the ILs on xmas day. All the presents at once was just too much for the kids.
I am pretty over it though and want to do our own thing. I had said that xmas was to be in Brisbane this year, but we haven't managed to find our bigger house yet and it just isn't managable. So we are off again, this time with 3 kids. But this time we are renting a beautiful big house with a pool at palm cove and we are putting on xmas lunch for both families there. Hopefully all the relos will actually listen and not get lots of difficult to transport presents.

Next year it will be in Brisbane in my own home!!!

Anyway, I guess my opinion is that xmas is about family. The kids LOVE having their grandparents around at this point in time, so I figure I can get over my desire to just be at home and have that bit of time to ourselves. We will get xmases like that, just not yet, and it isn't the end of the world. Sometimes we just have to compromise.