hmm.. I agree that you both need to talk and get it out there without anyone getting mad. Explain to him what you've said here, that there's going to be times you're really going to feel the desire for another, but that you are trying to come to terms with the reality of it not happening. And ask him to help you ride it out, explain that it's not you begging for another, just needing reassurance that you have a great, happy family already, and that it's complete.

I can also see both sides though. Just as we see the men shutting off and getting mad if having another baby is mentioned, it goes both ways, that us women can talk about it all the time and be overly emotional about it, which can be just as frustrating and invalidating of their feelings. They can think the door is closing on feelings they have that are important too... that they don't want another baby.

So I think the air needs to be cleared and a decision made, and then he needs to understand that you may need help dealing with that decision.

(argh.. I sooo don't want to take my own advice. LOL.. I'm planning to negotiate for a little while longer )