Nah he doesn't smoke up. Not to say we both haven't tried it before I got pregnant but it's only happened maybe... five times between us? Sorry I don;t think I can PM until 50 posts. He's not primary caregiver, although I think a lot of it has to do with our child. He's so good and sweet with him, but doesn't do any of the work. I've mentioned depression and going to see a doctor but he's said he doesn't want to be on medication, his mother has mentioned it too. Unfortunately if we push he'll want to go even less. He also has social anxiety and so hates meeting new people, he's just not interested, he has his two friends and he's happy with that.