I think it is great that you lovely ladies have decided on more babies and wish all the very best with your TTC journeys. However, I do feel like this "only child chat thread" seems to have turned into a "should we have another baby thread" IYKWIM?? Please dont anyone get offended though. I am not meaning to be awful to anyone in here.

How many truly parents of Onlies are there in here? I would love to chat about the issues us mums of onlies do face sometimes in this world where 2+ children are the expectation.

I have come accross an Only issue this week. At playgroup there is one 3 year old boy who is always very angry, not sure why. When outgoing DS bounds up to this angry boy and greets him and asks to play this angry boy just turns with a huge frown on his face and angrily yells. He does it at everyone except one particular little girl he is friends with. ANyway, this boys angriness is really having an effect on DS. I have noticed DS has been yelling a lot this week since playgroup and doing the frowning face a bit. I chatted to my cousnellor about it. SHe seemed to think that because DS is an only, he is used to being around grown ups a lot of the time and grown ups tend to have fairly predictable reactions. SO he isnt ued to kids and their irrational behaviours. When this angry boys yells at him, DS is feeling like he must have done something to make him angry, DS is feeling like his anger is his fault somehow and he is having trouble processing this.

So, my task for the week is to point out to DS when the angry boy yells at other kids who are doing nothing wrong and explaining to DS that the kids arent doing anything wrong yet he is still angry and yelling, therefore DS should come to realise that it is not always his fault when others are feeling angry. I am gonna find some kids book explaining feeling, too.

So there ya go, that is my latest 'only' experience

Oh, a slight vent too...I have been friendly with a young couple and their baby boy this past year, they dont work and ask for help constantly with everything in their lives. I was helping them out by purchasing clothes for baby etc. They had their second baby the day before bub no 1 first birthday and have done nothing but complain since. Fine, it must be extremely hard having a newborn and 12 month old. They needed more jumpsuits for new bubba so I went to Target and bought a couple of terry towelling suits in the size requested and dropped them around to their house. Later I was taling to my sister who tells me about this couple (she has known them for a while longer than me) When they were halfway preggers with baby boy 2 they gave away ALL of baby boy 1s clothes and furniture and pram, just cause they wanted all brand new for the new bub WTF??? and apparently only the best will do (good thing I gave them the receipt for the terry towelling suits LOL). ANyway, their FB status one night recently was them complaining that they didnt get alot of sleep the previous night. I assumed the older baby must have been wakeful, fair enough. But no, they were feeling hard done by casue the 6 day old didnt sleep throughh,,,,my response....been there, took 3 years for DS to sleep through, dont stress about your 6 day old he will get there. The response they gave me...how would you know, you only have one. GOSH, it really ticks me off that just cause I have an only, somehow I am not fit to offer advice or empathise with other stressed mothers. If only they knew what I went through with my severe reflus only....

So, thats my only vent for the day.

Come on people lets get this thread moving