Sisters

[didispunk]

How well do you get on with your sister(s)?

Do you fight?

Do are you great friends?

Are you alike?

Are you different?


Do you spend a lot of time together or apart??

[alioops]

My sister and I get along way better as adults than we did as kids. We don't figt much any more and now I do like to think of her as a friend. We are similar but still very different. I think we would spend a lot more time together if we lived closer together.

[danniellabella]

My sister and I get along way better as adults than we did as kids. We don't figt much any more and now I do like to think of her as a friend. We are similar but still very different. I think we would spend a lot more time together if we lived closer together.

I'm her sister and :yeahthat:

[didispunk]

Well I guess mine are not that acoomodating or caring.. more hurtful then anything at the moment.

[Crystalwings]

I have 3 sisters and we have a very close knit family. We have family bbq's often, live within an hr of eachother and although we do ***** about eachother we know eachother so well that it doesn't really matter iykwim? we all know that we ***** about eachother but I don't think any of us really care about being judged by those we love cause we have been through so much together. I don't neccessarily think we would be best friends if we weren't sisters but we are because we are sisters.
We did fight during our teenage years but don't all siblings? We lived in close proximity to eachother in a 3bdm house with my parents so ahd to learn to get along to some degree. When we rebelled we usually had someone else in the house to cover for us or they were going throught the same thing.
We are all very different and go through stages of being close to one sister or another. I wouldn't want it any other way. What can I say I adore my sisters even if we have had our ups and downs.
It has given me a greater understanding of living with girls and was soooo happy to have a daughter first just so I knew I would have a daughter. I would love a boy next time but would also love Olive to have the experience of having a sister.

Didi I really hope that you can work things out with your sisters. Is there someone who can be a mediator for you so you can work out the issues you have?
Best of luck

[Mak]

My sister is almost 2 years younger than me. She is very different to me in many ways (interest in clothes, going out and she is very confident and outgoing in her personality whilst I am a bit more reserved, more of a homebody and make less of an effort with my appearance, gee I sound a bit dowdy...lol).
We pretty much ignored each other or fought madly between the ages of 14-25 but she is now my best friend! We speak every day and catch up at least once a week. I would be lost without her.

[Lisa]

I have 2 younger sisters, A & B.
B & are are really alike in lots of ways including looks, she is 9 years younger than me but we have always been really close.
A & I never got along when we were growing up; A is 4 years younger than me... Our family moved 500kms away and we were left together when were 22 & 18 at the time so we started to get along. Then A decided she would move too. After that we got along really well. A missed me loads and ended up moving back down to where I was. Since then we have got on like nothing else.
I live half way between my sisters, A is in Sydney & B is on the Mid North Coast. I miss them both terribly but call them as often as possible. A is definitely the 'Mum' to all of us and I often call and ask her for advice... I called her lots when DS2 was born as there was heaps I'd forgotten in the 10 years since my previous child was born. Each of my sisters have children of their own now, and all our kids get along really well... our youngest ones are all very close in age.

[KitFaerie]

My sister is 8 years older than me, we kind of ignored each other growing up, age difference was a bit too big then. But now we're really close, we're 1/2 exactly alike and 1/2 totally different. She's one of my best friends and I couldn't do without her, sometimes, I just want my sister

[Twin Sister]

I have a twin sister (fraternal). We are VERY different. She is very career minded and money driven, and very well travelled. I am a home body and am very happy with my job as stay-at-home-mom. We have always been the best of friends though and are very close. We sadly live in different provinces but we talk on the phone almost every day.

[Visitor7]

My sister and I couldn't be more different. Growing up we had nothing in common and we fought a lot. It's only been the past 12 months or so (especially now that she's pregnant) that we can actually have a conversation with each other without it turning into a massive argument.
She's 4 years older than I am.

[Inertia]

I have 4 sisters, so things get interesting!

I think we all have a good relationship so long as everything is going well, but under stress we are likely to drift away or get into fights. I think its because we KNOW that we will forgive each other. We couldnt put a friend through some of the stuff we have each other trying to get our lives back on track and still have that friend - but we always still had sisters.

[Rach75]

How well do you get on with your sister(s)? 1 sister (aussienic) we get along well now as kids we did fight a lot we are 21mths apart

Do you fight? as kids yep... occasionally now we have minor tiffs usually to do with mum

Do are you great friends? i'd say the older we have got the better we are

Are you alike?

Are you different?

now this is tricky we are very different but at same time very much alike Nic is probably a lot more easy going with life than me I am the stresser she is the dreamer (love ya nic) we do seem to have very similiar ideals when it comes to the kids but again we have some huge differences so not making any sense with this question

Do you spend a lot of time together or apart?? unfortuantly we dont see each other as much as we should we live 2hrs apart but I regularly visit the IL's who live 20min from Nic, but due to her not having a licence its very hard to catch up well it shouldn't be but it is... I have made a resolution this year to do more for me and my family in relation to visiting etc, so hopefully I will see more of nic and her beuatiful family........

[didispunk]

The reason I asked...
Is that my sister has been staying with me for the last week or so with her DH and her 6 month old son.

And I found an email from my other sister to this sister about how staying with me is crapo.. how i cannot parent my kids well,

how my husband is rude and doesnt keep promises bla bla bla.

This is all such nonsence.. I have never been so hurt in my life...
I confronted my sister who said she was really upset at the time and sorry she said the things she did...
She is ment to comeback tomorrow to my house to stay for 3 days before she flies back overseas to canada...

I will NOT have her in my home again.. and I am going to tell her she will have to find alternate acoomodation with friends in melbourne etc.


SOme of the things she wrote back and forth to my sister is just so so sad..
that my kids are little BRATS.. and that i am very insonsitant parenting etc.. just such rude hurtful things.

That i have no values.. bla bla bla..
I am 15 weeks pregnant on top of all this and i dont know how much more i can handle...
I will after this have NO sisters... that is waht makes me sad.

[didispunk]

So upsetting.

[Inertia]

I think you will find out that that is fairly normal.

She definitely did not want to hurt you else she would have said to to your face. But that doesnt change the fact that she does feel that way. My sisters and I are easily caught into this trap as well. Its just another form of keyhole judging, only we have a window sized space to look through - still doesnt show us everything.

Also not living a day in their shoes can cause us to feel morally superior.

Turn it around on her. Find out what is driving her comments and explain to her any underlying issues that she is completely unaware of and look at it as constructive criticism - that maybe from the outside she is seeing something you missed. Sometimes I have to point out to my DH when he is being inconsistent with the kids and we dont tend to notice sometimes.

Certainly if you do not want to open your house to be judged and ridiculed in email, don't invite her back, but she does love you and is probably extremely upset she did it now seeing how you found out.

Our sisters were the first people we ever had to compete with - and its hard to shake that.

[Kailani]

Oh that's so nasty I'm sorry your sister said such hurtful things. I can see what Inertia is saying as well and I would maybe agree if it were only one or 2 hurtful comments that sort of had some truth to them, or if there had been some sort of incident that made her say those things in the heat of the moment, but the fact that she was saying these things to your other sister over a series of emails, and made several nasty comments, that would put me off and I would definitely not have her back at my house if that's how she feels! No values, bad parenting, kids are brats, husband is rude...! No way she would be welcome back if I were you. But that's just me...I have no time for nasty two-faced people.

And by the way, they sound like things my sister would say, hence I keep my distance.

[widdly]

Didi - that is exactly what has been happening with me and my sister, nothingis as hurtful i knowxx

Now my sister wants to make peace with me, but its hard knowing that she thinks my son is a complete monster and brat and she has such a low opinion of my DH

[Dotti8]

I am one of four sisters (one of the middle ones). There is 18 months between 1 and 2, then 2.5 years between 2 and 3 (me) and 4 years between me and no.4.

We were all close growing up. I got especially close with my younger sister when the elder two were off at uni and I was finishing up highschool. Then I went to the same uni as my older sis' and it was further great bonding time!

Yep we fought growing up but not grudge holding fights, just your usual 'throwing the hair brush at each other' kind of fights.

The three eldest all now live in Brisbane within 2kms of each other (same and adjoining suburbs). This was a gradual thing. My youngest sis went to uni here in Bris. I moved up after finishing uni, then 6 months later sis no.1 moved up, then 12 months later sis no.3 moved up!

Now sis no.4 has moved back to NSW for the easy coastal life and I miss her terribly!

They are definitely my best friends. We all now have children ranging from 5 years to 4.5 months (my DD). I am sure they will all be close as well!

(Much to DH's dismay ) I would love to have four daughters so that they experience the kind of love and friendships I had growing up!!