Smothering mother in law!

[kerry]

Maybe organise to take your MIL out for coffee, just the 2 of you, and have a chat.
I really value your advice and friendship....
I love that you care so much for DD and that she has such a special bond with you but I need you to step back a bit....
Let her know that she is welcome in your house but that it is YOUR house and your daughter. While you appreciate that she gives you a lot of support and help it is really overstepping the mark to just do things and not consult you.

I have similar issues with my own mother, we can't be anywhere where she is without her taking over completely. Being a sm, sometimes i don't mind but the majority or the time it really gets to me. My dd is the only grandkid also and I think as my mother and I have a very poor relationship she is trying to compensate by having a good one with my dd. I don't mind as I can see her being the mum I wanted to have to my daughter... that said I have a few times said that Bridie is my daughter and regardless of if I am making mistakes or not they are my mistakes to make, she had her chance to be a mum, 4 times infact and while I value her as Bridie's grandma she needs to realise that a grandma is different to a mother. Every time I real off this speech she backs of for a week or so but then she just starts up again. ATM it is easier to handle it this way for me.

Hope something here helped.

Oh just had an idea, buy her a bunch of lovely flowers and attach a letter explaining how you feel, just make sure to emphasis the positives as well.

Good luck, and hope your BIL has a kids real soon so she can transfer her affections to the new baby :P.