Hi there,

I just wanted to get some opinions on the following few things that have been really annoying me, or am I just being paraniod and jealous.

I have been with my DP for 3 years and I have know my DSS for 2 1/2 years who is now 6 1/2 YO. My DP lets his DS call his aunty mummy. When I first heard this I thought it was weird and went along with it. I didn't approve of it and I let DP know it as well. My DP told me that because his sister was "like a mum" to DS from the ages of 2-4 that it was ok for DS to call his aunty mummy. DP told me thats how it was and would stay that way. Knowing how my DP still feels about his ex wife I dont think that his intentions are 100%. MIL loathes the ex-wife so she freely refers to DSS's aunty as his mummy, which I havn't heard in awhile. While aunty made the comment once that she was embarased at a family/friends BBQ that DSS was calling her mummy and other people where asking her why.

It had been bothering me and I spoke to my mum about it and her opinon was that it wasn't a good thing and you only have one mother and thats is who you call mum. When she told me this it even bothered me more. My mum also advised me that not to talk about it too much with DSS or push the topic too much with DSS, and that in time he will realise who is who.

I have spoken to DSS about this once only and I had asked him why he calls his aunty mummy. He tells me thats because he has 2 mummies, but I dont think he understands. I let him know that everyone only has one mum. One year down the track he has now asked me twice if he could call me mummy. I was happy that he asked me this but I said to him that he only one mummy and he could call me his step-mum. After that I felt sad for my DSS.

I go through stages when this bothers alot and I do vent this to DP. I dont think I could say anything in a family situation when DSS does this as I am worried about what other family members will think/say. After thinking about what I have written above I think it comes down to some jealousy on my behalf. What does everyone else think? Should I speak to DSS aunty about it? Am I just being to pedantic and paranoid?

Hopefully I can find some comfort in your replies/suggestions? Thank you.