Hi all. I have a step daughter Chloe, who is 6. I also have a daughter, Jasmyn, also 6. Both the girls live with us and they see their other parent during the week after school 2 days a week (most weeks) and every other weekend. For this year, things have been working out well with this arrangement, although with the girls doing more now with school and after school activities, it can be difficult.
We are now expecting our first child together, and both the girls are getting very excited. They call each other sisters (not step), and DP and I are mummy and daddy, even with their good relationships with their other parents.
I have found the blended family relationship very challenging at times, but I wouldn't change what I have. Chloe brings so much to my life, and I am very proud to be called her mummy.
Look forward to chatting in here more! Maybe this thread should be in the larger family/blended family section? I have posted in there before.
Wow there isn't much chat in here at all! Surely i'm not the only step parent out there...
I'm Cassie, Live in Queensland, have 2 step children Locklan 5 (lived with us for almost a year now) and Noah 3 1/2 (lived with us for 3 months)... We have custody of the boys as off a couple of weeks ago. They are with us full time and spent one weekend (from saturday morning until sunday afternoon) at their mums house.
I must say that i have found this step to step-parenting much harder then i did becomming a mum to Izzabella. But i wouldn't have it any other way i love the boys so much and glad they are apart of my life.
Hi my name is Krystie and I have two stepsons. Jesse is 11 and James is 8. My DH and I got married in March, and have been together for over 4 years. The boys spend about 1/3 of the time with us at the moment, but we are currently in discussions about Jesse coming to live with us next year when he goes to high school (he actually brought it up with his mum a couple of days ago!). We would love it if he comes to live with us We're working on a schedule which would still allow the boys to be spending 4/7 nights together though.
I'm very lucky because both the boys are very close to me, and I also love them dearly. I was amazed when I realised that I have been a part of James' life for over half of his life now!
We are currently TTC (unfortunately lost our fist angel recently), aand I can't wait to give them a little sister or brother.
I'm in a weird situation - I'm a former stepmum lol! My XH has a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I'm taking her to Queensland next week for a 5 day holiday with the boys and I. She keeps in contact with me rather than her father, for various reasons.
She still considers me her stepmum and I still say she's my stepdaughter, we just don't talk about my (lack of) relationship with her Father!
Well I have 2 x step-kids that live with my partner & I permanently... We've had Kyle (10yrs) for about 3yrs & Cassie (13yrs) has only recently moved over about 3-4mnths ago!
I couldn't imagine my life without them now, especially the youngest, he has become my whole life but that doesn?t help the fact that everyday is a challenge? I don?t have that maternal instinct as we don?t have our own kids just yet & I struggle with handling different situations when they arise? My partner is 9yrs older than me & I am only 24yrs old so I?m learning more about this parenting thing everyday with each new situation? It really is the hardest thing I?ve ever done in my life but with each challenge is a lesson learnt & I remind myself of this every time it gets a bit much!
Their mum lives overseas & she doesn?t make much effort to see/talk to the kids which I think is the saddest part... :-( When my step-son moved over he hadn?t had much schooling & was about 3-4yrs below his peers (no joke) - we got him a private tutor about 2yrs ago & with a lot of help & persistence @ home aswell, he is now right up there with his mates!! Watching this happen has made this journey all worth it for me? There is nothing better than watching a young child?s confidence start to climb & to see the look on his face when you tell him you?re proud of him when he comes home with awards from school? I feel sad for them that their mum doesn?t make enough effort but I feel happy for me when they go to bed at night & tell me they love me - their mum doesn?t know what she?s missing out on?
Anyway I better go before I write my whole life story but it somehow makes it easier knowing that there are many more of us out there coz there?s times where you feel like the only one. Thankyou everyone for sharing your stories!!!!!
we see them every fortnight weekend and try and have them as much as we can during hols - partner works 6 day weeks plus doesn't get holidays much due to type of work but we try. certainly been a learning curve becoming a 'step parent'. i find it difficult to ascertain boundaries. i.e. have put foot down on kids 'can't do that' and DP's ex partner phoned a few days later having a go (so much so that DP and i almost broke up), then a few weeks ago boys misbehaving (i home alone with them) so told DP, he told them off when got home and was decided with my BP problem ... from now on they come on Sat, not fri night otherwise they home alone with me. she phoned again having massive spew and that it's ok if i discipline them... WTF ... i don't understand.!
anyway i love my step kids and think they will be so fabulous with their bro/ sister.
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We're working on a schedule which would still allow the boys to be spending 4/7 nights together though.
Everyday is a challenge!!!
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