Step-parenting General Chatter

[BellyBelly]

I've noticed more step-parents around of late and I guess it's going to be more common with the times so here's a thread of your very own! Feel free to discuss any challenges and triumphs, ups and downs.

If you would like to have your details included at the start of this page, please post your username, state and how many step-children you have, with their ages and anything else you want to include. Enjoy!

[kelly2202]

kelly2202
WA
I have two step DD's - Sian 11 and Bree (Brianna) 8.

Just wanted to say Hi and let others know that I am here but find it difficult to find time to post LOL!

I have met Sian and Bree once since I have been with Ryan. They live in Queensland with their Mum and we flew to Queensland a couple of years ago (before Asha) to spend 2 weeks with them. That is also the only time Ryan has seen the girls since I have known him (6yrs). He did try to get to see the girls a while ago but he was on the last Ansett flight from Perth to Sydney. When he got to Sydeny Qantas told him he could get a return flight that day or he would have to pay $$$ to organise ongoing flights. Sadly he had to return that day ... we didn't have the money to get him there.

There is lots more that goes with this story but I am going to leave it there for now ... we have a rather complex family!!

Looking forward to getting to know other step parents.

Cheers

[kelly2202]

Wow no one else wants to chat ... our families are such a unique experience and one that can be discussed by others but can really only be understood by people who have been there ...

I thought there would be plenty of people in here chatting away!

Cheers

[Deejoy17]

Wow, I just found this thread, thankyou Kelly this is a great idea

Username: deejoy17
State: NSW
Stepchildren: Michael 13 and Alister 12
Have been in the boys lives since they were 8 and 9

Kelly I find that very sad that your DH has only seen the girls once in 6 years. I bet he misses them.

I`m in a different situation we have the boys every second weekend from School Friday afternoon till school time Monday morning then we have them half of the school holidays, they are currently with us atm.

Take Care

Dee

[kelly2202]

Dee

He misses them like crazy but we can't afford to all fly over. Work has also prevented him from flying over to see the girls. We have offered to pay for the girls to fly to Perth so that they can see their Grandparents (who have never met Bree IRL) but his XW won't allow it. As soon as we have some money saved up I will be organising for him to fly over to see the girls, but he has just started a new job so getting holidays maybe tricky!

Em & Jack see their Dad ever holidays, usually a week except for June when they are supposed to go for 2 weeks and Christmas where they go for 3 weeks!

Cheers

[Deejoy17]

Kelly - Sorry for neglecting you, I forgot about this thread

How`s everything going?

[JoMarie]

Hi all. I have a step daughter Chloe, who is 6. I also have a daughter, Jasmyn, also 6. Both the girls live with us and they see their other parent during the week after school 2 days a week (most weeks) and every other weekend. For this year, things have been working out well with this arrangement, although with the girls doing more now with school and after school activities, it can be difficult.

We are now expecting our first child together, and both the girls are getting very excited. They call each other sisters (not step), and DP and I are mummy and daddy, even with their good relationships with their other parents.

I have found the blended family relationship very challenging at times, but I wouldn't change what I have. Chloe brings so much to my life, and I am very proud to be called her mummy.

Look forward to chatting in here more! Maybe this thread should be in the larger family/blended family section? I have posted in there before.

[Catastrophic]

Wow there isn't much chat in here at all! Surely i'm not the only step parent out there...
I'm Cassie, Live in Queensland, have 2 step children Locklan 5 (lived with us for almost a year now) and Noah 3 1/2 (lived with us for 3 months)... We have custody of the boys as off a couple of weeks ago. They are with us full time and spent one weekend (from saturday morning until sunday afternoon) at their mums house.

I must say that i have found this step to step-parenting much harder then i did becomming a mum to Izzabella. But i wouldn't have it any other way i love the boys so much and glad they are apart of my life.

[saslia]

Another Step mum here

I have 3 step kids Georgia who is nearly 13 and Bonnie and Noah are 10 1/2.

Georgia lives with us and the other 2 with their Mum and we have them every 2nd weekend and half of the holidays.

Stewart and I got together just before the twins turned 1. We now have our 2 gorgeous munchkins Sascha who is 7 and Liam nearly 1.

[~ Mylitta ~]

Hi my name is Krystie and I have two stepsons. Jesse is 11 and James is 8. My DH and I got married in March, and have been together for over 4 years. The boys spend about 1/3 of the time with us at the moment, but we are currently in discussions about Jesse coming to live with us next year when he goes to high school (he actually brought it up with his mum a couple of days ago!). We would love it if he comes to live with us We're working on a schedule which would still allow the boys to be spending 4/7 nights together though.

I'm very lucky because both the boys are very close to me, and I also love them dearly. I was amazed when I realised that I have been a part of James' life for over half of his life now!

We are currently TTC (unfortunately lost our fist angel recently), aand I can't wait to give them a little sister or brother.

[Amity]

Wow there are a few of us!

I'm in a weird situation - I'm a former stepmum lol! My XH has a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I'm taking her to Queensland next week for a 5 day holiday with the boys and I. She keeps in contact with me rather than her father, for various reasons.

She still considers me her stepmum and I still say she's my stepdaughter, we just don't talk about my (lack of) relationship with her Father!

[CharlieBrownGirl]

I think you all are doing an awesome job as a 'step mum'.

I wish my WSM (wicked step mother) was as compationate. Sadly she has major issues, hence the WSM title.

I could type all night about the things she has done to hurt me and my sister, the biggest is the barrier she has created between myself and my Dad. I wish he had the balls to stand up for us, but he is all about 'keeping the peace'.

*sigh* the joys of divorce and blended families.

[Cupcake]

Im still here .. Still having issues with shared care .. ATM DSD is 5 and cant put sentences together properly so she makes sense..we try to correct her so she can learn but its not being followed through at home, much the same as manners :P

CBG sounds like my step mum, constantly used to make my dad choose between us and it always broke my heart when he chose her, but in the end she's his companion i guess and he'd probably be lonely without her, thats what i keep telling myself anyway lol. To this day she still gets ****ty if he does something to help me or remembers something i asked him to do (probably because he always forgets when she asks him to do something lol)

[Catastrophic]

CBG - Aww :-( That doesn't sound very nice. Feel free to vent if it helps.

Ammaki - Thats hard! How is SDS coping with it all?
Mine are 5.5 & 7 boys and for the most part we are doing alright they life with us full time so it makes if for an easier situation imo. The one problem we are having is after 2 years their mother still hasn't got it together so is still not having them this weekend or bringing them home early... Which really plays with out youngest boy as he deosn't cope well with change or things not going as planned... It makes for a upset little boy, who misbehaves in frustration and me pulling my hair out!

[Cupcake]

She is a pretty easy going little one so doesnt mind, although it hurts a little when she says she wants to go back to mummy's earlier (we dont take her back but you get what i mean) we worked out its because she has a little friend in the neighbourhood that she always plays with all the time which makes it easier for us to hear if that makes sense haha. I swear that child spends no time at her mums house lol

Aaww poor little guy, they're old enough to understand whats going on too so must be hard for them!

[Catastrophic]

Yea I get what you mean :-)