Hi Ladies Thank you for replying. I have to admit that although it has been a rough 7 years I think I am lucky that I have had a good relationship with all 3 kids regardless of all the stunts their mother used to pull. The poor kids have really been torn between Mum and Dad with their mother trying every trick in the book to try and get them back with her. We were lucky the kids were old enough to decide where they wanted to live and they chose to live with me and their dad. The two girls are now 20 and 17 and our youngest son is now 16. Its been a rough journey and like saschasmum I did have issues where I felt like I was just the cook, cleaner and landlady! Their mother ran a very untidy house and the kids never knew how to clean up after themselves! For a house proud person like me it was the ultimate sin! But now I am proud of all 3 as they have turned out to be well rounded young people, with no serious issues although middle daughter did move back with her mother 2 years ago.