All I have to say Is you have more patience then I. HAHA
I wouldve disowned HER a long time back.. not that it makes much sense, but thats what I wouldve told her for trying to control my life!

Thats just me though, I cant stand preechers, especially the ones who try to make you feel BAD for not agreeing with their veiws "because they are right" Whatever.
lol I know Im not being helpfull, sorry.
I think I just wouldnt tell her. Let her figure it out, then tell her, "well we figured you wouldnt have wanted to be a part of it, so we left you out."
Mahaha
hope everything works out for you! AND CONGRATS!! <3