What were YOUR parents like?

[beansbeans!]

Mum raised us as a single parent and quiet honsetly there is no way in the world I will ever replicate her parenting.
I had no boundaries, I was the adult in the house, I cleaned, I did the school lunches, I did the washing.. I did everything.
I made a lot of mistakes growing up and I know that if I had boundaries there would have been no way I would have made those decisions.

My parenting on the otherhand is fairly strict, but we have a lot of fun. I put being a mother first, and that is something my mother did only once in a blue moon or so. I am a lot more proactive in their lives, and thats the way I plan to be. Dh is very similar, his parents were great parents but they treated him like an adult from the day he was born, and he suffered growing up because of that.

In actual fact we are the total opposite of our parents. we are rasing our girls in a way that we always dreamed our parents were like when we were gorwing up

[Jellyfish]

My parents were/are brilliant, I feel very lucky. I hope I can be even a tiny bit as good as they have been! Their number one rule was consequences; you can do anything you like as long as you understand and accept the consequences and it is something that has always stuck with me, to consider the impact of my actions. Me and my brother weren't perfect, we made mistakes and stuffed up here and there but never did anything super bad. I know if I'm ever in a pickle, my parents would drop everything to be there for me and have done, no matter what happens I know they have got my back and I hope my daughter feels like that too.

I don't do everything how they did (BLS, breastfeeding etc although my parents are supportive and curious, my Dad is always dragging me into conversations saying "hey, what is that feeding thing called? Baby led something? Tell them about it, come on it's great haha) but the general 'feel' I guess is something I hope to replicate. Becomming a parent has made me appreciate mine so much more, I suddenly realise what a tough and confusing gig being one is.