i have. He is in agreement that we need to wait but i think he is frightened to say no more and have something done permanently like have a vasectomy (not that i'm asking him to yet) he keeps on saying we'll just have a ceaser like it's an easy thing.

i don't want it to cause a huge rift in our marriage. just wondering from others who ended up backing down you or him?

btw - i know this decision doesn't have to be reached now it's just on my mind lately