10 things breastfeeding advocates should stop saying

[Smoke Jaguar]

The post is useful, and I think it would serve a far greater purpose to be in a different section. Perhaps a mod could move it? Otherwise, anyone can read and post in this section.
I prefer not to support new mums with negative references to formula feeding mums, so I can't see how sniggering about the dumb things some well-meaning (sometimes not) and less-informed people say materially or emotionally supports a mum who has had to use formula.
I think it's encumbent on all of us to counter ignorance, not just formula feeders, and not just breastfeeders. Ignorance doesn't serve us as mothers, does it?

[delphmoon]

The post is useful, and I think it would serve a far greater purpose to be in a different section. Perhaps a mod could move it? Otherwise, anyone can read and post in this section.
I prefer not to support new mums with negative references to formula feeding mums, so I can't see how sniggering about the dumb things some well-meaning (sometimes not) and less-informed people say materially or emotionally supports a mum who has had to use formula.
I think it's encumbent on all of us to counter ignorance, not just formula feeders, and not just breastfeeders. Ignorance doesn't serve us as mothers, does it?

tell you what- cut and paste it if you want and have your discussion about whatever it is you want in whatever place you want it.

It was posted here to give FF mums the opportunity to discuss their experience and maybe debrief alittle.

Copy and paste it into wherever you want and over intellectualise the issue there and leave us to discuss what we are in a "formula feeding discussion and support" group for!!

Thankyou!!

[Smoke Jaguar]

Kaz, I knew you'd love the group; they're ace, aren't they? Glad you've got a great bunch of people to share your dual experience with and have somewhere you feel you belong - I hope you grow to love them as much as I do And thanks for sharing about it here, too - I hope it doesn't get lost in the false dichotomy

[delphmoon]

Kaz, I knew you'd love the group; they're ace, aren't they? Glad you've got a great bunch of people to share your dual experience with and have somewhere you feel you belong - I hope you grow to love them as much as I do And thanks for sharing about it here, too - I hope it doesn't get lost in the false dichotomy

And your in here because ????????

[Jellyfish]

So instead of helping people learn to be more supportive and tactful and avoid hurting FFers, you would rather they butt out of 'your' area so you can brainstorm ways to combat their comments (even if they are not intending to be hurtful)?? That seems to be counterproductive, don't we all want to be on the same side here? I don't think ANY breastfeeder wants to alienate or hurt a FFer. I certaintly don't and would rather know these things, I want to understand... but we aren't welcome... confused

[Smoke Jaguar]

Delphmoon, I hope you soon realise that BB was set up for MOTHERS to support each other, not some idea of sub-sections of mothers to support each other in cocoons. This is the first time in my whole membership that I've been told I don't belong somewhere. And I've posted in TTC, LTTC, and Loss forums, as a member who hasn't got personal experience to share, and plenty of empathy and understanding, esp because I have IRL friends who have experienced these things. Just as IRL I have friends (*gasp*) who use formula, comp-feed and who breastfeed.
Just because you don't see the value in mine or other posts, doesn't mean someone else hasn't, so please don't play the exclusion game. You underscore the OP's point by doing this, and it's really unfriendly of you to tell me to shut up when I'm agreeing with the OP. It's not the BB way...

[delphmoon]

Delphmoon, I hope you soon realise that BB was set up for MOTHERS to support each other, not some idea of sub-sections of mothers to support each other in cocoons. This is the first time in my whole membership that I've been told I don't belong somewhere. And I've posted in TTC, LTTC, and Loss forums, as a member who hasn't got personal experience to share, and plenty of empathy and understanding, esp because I have IRL friends who have experienced these things. Just as IRL I have friends (*gasp*) who use formula, comp-feed and who breastfeed.
Just because you don't see the value in mine or other posts, doesn't mean someone else hasn't, so please don't play the exclusion game. You underscore the OP's point by doing this, and it's really unfriendly of you to tell me to shut up when I'm agreeing with the OP. It's not the BB way...

You havn't offered anything other than criticism..What have you got to say about the actual thread other than "I prefer not to support new mums with negative references to formula feeding mums, so I can't see how sniggering about the dumb things some well-meaning (sometimes not) and less-informed people say materially or emotionally supports a mum who has had to use formula.
I think it's encumbent on all of us to counter ignorance, not just formula feeders, and not just breastfeeders. Ignorance doesn't serve us as mothers, does it? "

What are you talking about?

I am surprised and I spose driven by the countless PMs I am currently getting from people who feel the same way I do...I'm sick of this and I'm completely done with this thread!!

[BellyBelly]

There was no need for a question to be turned into WWIII.

If you feel yourself getting drawn in, emotional and carried away with a thread then its time to step away until a time when you feel level again. Lets get this back on track, we'll remove OT posts so that this can keep going forward.