SB, your IL's sound great! My MIL is one of the best vegan bakers that I know, and she isn't even vego...When I met my DH all those years ago, his mum rang the vegan society and asked them for recipes so that she could make vegan food whenever I visited! I was so touched. Whenever we visit her is Sydney she has the fridge and cupboards stocked with vegan 'basics', soy milk, chocolate, tofu etc. AND at least two baked goodies - a cake and some type of biscuits. She knows how to make at least a dozen vegan meals. I am so lucky. She has never tried to intentionally feed our kids non-vegan food, and even her other grandchildren enjoy many of her vegan recipes.

I like your response to your IL's re: the biccies with eggs. When people genuinely make an effort the last thing you want to do is crush their spirit.

Also, to contrast pet peeve of the week, I am going to mention my positive vegan moment of the week -

My DD's preschool teacher had her birthday this week. She mentioned to me that she wanted to make a birthday cake with the children the following day (when my DD was also attending). The teacher said that she had a recipe for a coconut cake, and she told me the ingredients (flour, sugar, dessicated coconut and soy milk). I was very touched, as she emphasised that she wanted my DD to be involved. The next day, when I picked DD up, I even got a piece of the cake AND the leftover carton of soy milk that had been used for the cake (it was 3/4 full).