I know, it was a big blow, like I said, we've been discussing this for nearly two years now, they've had heaps of time to realise they wanted children first! And that's exactly what I thought as well when I read her message, we wont be a 'mum to him'...he's her husband, he'll be the father of her children!
Ah well...good things come to those who wait, hey? xx
Just a quick update on our situation After DP and I discussed it a bit further, we've decided to go with donor sperm from a clinic instead. We've thought if his wife can't see that he won't be a 'father' to our children now, what if she thinks like that after our baby had been born? She might want to push for him to have a first hand with raising the baby and I just do not want that.
And to be honest, I don't want to wait around for them to faff around and get pregnant themselves. So, all things aside, we'll officially be starting TTC in May-June 2011! (I know, it seems like forever anyway, but I wanted to take that long to save a bit extra and lose some excess weight. AND it looks as though I just might be heading for a pay-rise, every bit helps!
Thanks so much, guys! I really feel like this is the right decision, with everything suddenly just falling into place...I feel so relieved now! It might be a tad more costly with the donor sperm and all, but I believe it's worth it for us in the long run! I'm a little sad that it didn't work out with our donor friend, he's been a fabulous friend and we value and treasure his happiness to help us out, but I think it's best this way.
Love you all! x
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After DP and I discussed it a bit further, we've decided to go with donor sperm from a clinic instead. We've thought if his wife can't see that he won't be a 'father' to our children now, what if she thinks like that after our baby had been born? She might want to push for him to have a first hand with raising the baby and I just do not want that.
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