Thanks so much, guys! I really feel like this is the right decision, with everything suddenly just falling into place...I feel so relieved now! It might be a tad more costly with the donor sperm and all, but I believe it's worth it for us in the long run! I'm a little sad that it didn't work out with our donor friend, he's been a fabulous friend and we value and treasure his happiness to help us out, but I think it's best this way.
Love you all! x
I was actually going to say that it sounds a little bit like a red flag with the chosen donor and his wife.
Our donor is my girls bestie of 20 years, (gay). He has no partner and will be known as Dad. I have known him for 8 years and we have already had complications arrising that we have had to bump on the head immediately with his family etc. I can't imagine him having a partner too.
I hope it happens very quickly for you... It did for us. We did home insem and it worked first cycle.
It's a very exciting road to be on...
If we did it over again we would have gone the same route however we would have sat down with his family and made sure he explained all the details to them as he hasn't.
Sounds bad but when we decided on him, we did so because he owns his own company and travels the world on business for around 5 months a year. he would be a donor but be known as Dad as we wouldn't like to fib to our child...
So my family and my girls would be the "childs family".... His family, who live 8 hrs away are saying things like we will spend every christmas with them at their house blah blah blah. Which is never going to happen.
So there have been some tears and there will possibly be more.
It's like all family planning though, gay or straight, everyone has an opinion and a say.
I hope things really work out for you. How exciting....!
By the way...
A note of advice...
If you are planning on TTC mid year, get online and order yourself some ovulation predictor kits, (wee sticks). It's only roughly 6 cycles till you start and you can't research your body and its motions too much.
I did this and found out I had a short leuteal phase. So from ovulation to my period was only 9 days and not 14 like most. So the lining of my uterus is not juicy enough to sustain an egg for the 1st 12 weeks. (3 m/c over 4 years ago before 12 weeks).
Knowing this, I took progesterone tablets for 20 days after ovulation to stop me bleeding and here we are, nearly 32 weeks pregnant with a rocking and rolling bub in my tum!
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