The sickness isn't so much most of the day anymore. It's mainly night time and three or four times a day which is nicer.
I woke this morning and my boobies weren't so sore and let's just say we took advantage of the situation. Which is lovely.....
Meat is not my friend either. Some of it I can eat but I can't cook it.
Alot of the girls on my forum have their symptoms easing so I don't feel too bad when I have an 'ok' day.
I don't know if I mentioned it before but wheni went for this downs scan during another preg there was no heartbeat even after having 2 good scans just weeks before. So I am a little nervous. One week today though.
My lovely girl is flying out Saturday to south australia for business and comes back tues or wed. Sometimes I wish she was a baker and not an executive.! Yummy!
The salon was fun yesterday except when I had to keep making excuses to sneak out the back and eat mandarins! Now you said cookies though so that is all I can think of! Darn you!
So has lace had text book symptoms so far? Any spotting?
You guys did Ivf? Anon donor?
Do you have to keep going and seeing them or once you get a positive test are you sent out into the real world? Just curious how much of the journey they are involved in.
Our donor is so excited he's nearly out shopping and buying everything!
We bought a pram on the weekend because it was the one I wanted and it was reduced from $700 to $350 for one day only.
Other than that I'm waiting.
Are you on the bellie buddy forum with others due at the same time? I am. It good to have 7-10 others at the same stage as you, feeling just as useless and helpless as you do.
They have been really supportive of us as a gay couple, as they should but sometimes you dont expect it.
How long have you guysbeen together? Trying to conceive for 18 months???? You must have lived and breathed it. Then you get the positive and you think the stress is over. Then all you do is worry anyway! It's emotionally rooted!
I am starting to get a belly.
I'm sitting here having my nails done and there is definately a tummy. More than usual anyway. I can feel my uterus as well starting to pop over my pelvic bone. My girl says, "stop poking the baby!" but it feelsslightly more real when I can see and feel things happening and growing.
There is a rainbow babies gathering in marrickville in sydney for lesbian mums that I will join if and when this baby is born. The dad is already going to gay dads things. We are also heading to the pride picnic in parramatta park in sept. I want to use this community for all it's glorious resources.
Now I have written a novel! Good luck. And sorry for any spelling/grammar errors as again I am doing this on my phone at the nail bar.
Glad your sickness is easing for you and lucky you and your girl for not so sore boobies
I can fully understand your worry, we are worried enough ourselves and we haven't had anything like your shattering past happen to us, we are thinking of you though and wishing you so much sticky sticky sticky!
I am glad we aren't executives (the money would be nice though) it must be really hard for your girl to have to leave her precious family for business so often. The downfall of being a baker is that it is IMPOSSIBLE to avoid food smells and mornings, so my poor girl, as tired and sick as she is has to drag herself out of bed and off to work. The sea-bands have to come off for work too, one, because we are keeping it a secret till the 2nd trimester and two, because sea-bands and dough do not mix.
Have you told anyone, family, friends, clients?
Yeah so far everything has been pretty text book, symptoms very similar to yourself, though we have been fortunate enough to not have had any spotting, we would totally FREAK OUT!
That's so nice that your donor is so excited and into it already, and joining a Dads group, he sounds like he is gonna be fantastic.
We did use an anonamous US sperm donor, and we used an egg donor as well, me. We have been together for just over 7 years and yes this last 18 months have litterally been all IVF treatment cycles, medication, scans, charts, blood tests, specialist appointments, the works...and once we got the positive it is pretty much off into the real world for us, but the girls from the clinic didn't let us get away that easy, they want to see pictures and know every detail, so that's nice to know that they care so much about us, we are not just another "customer".
Don't you just love it when something you've had your eye on comes on sale? Especially half price, we do, I get a bit excited over super bargains. We have had the cot, pram and car seat hidden in our house for over 12 months now, so excited to know now that they can soon come out of hiding.
You are starting to get a belly!!!!! That is soooooooo exciting! That must make everything just seem so REAL! I know scans show a tiny baby and a heartbeat but you still look the same (don't feel the same though) but a belly makes it look real. I can't wait till my girl gets a little belly.
How long have you guys been together? You have certainly been through alot together. I am glad that you have something so beautiful to show for it. I am wishing your girl safe travel vibes and both of you lucky sticky vibes for next Thursday. Thanks for the hugs, here's one for you too
Talk to you soon
The dad who is my girls best friend and my best friend were boyfriends. Back when they got together in 2000, I was living in Europe and when my bestie was introduced and got to know my girl, he used to say, "wait till you meet my bestfriend, You will love her! You two would get along so well..." When I moved back to Aus in 2003, we met and there was a spark but we are very moral people and did the right thing and never explored it.
We were both in other relationships but when the boys had birthdays and parties etc, my girl and I would spend all night together laughing our butts off. Then when I opened my salon she became one of my best clients. She'd buy whatever I recommended and I'd book her in before hours.... There was ALWAYS a connection.
Then in Nov 08 I held my annual pre xmas party for clients and friends and she finally came to one. She'd broken up with her girlfriend and I was sleeping in the spare room of my house and we hooked up. We have been inseparable ever since. We moved in together quite quickly (as girls do!) in Jan 09.
So in short, We have been friends since 2003 but have been a couple for 2 years in Dec this year.
How great that it is your egg! We had planned to do that but my girl is 38 and an idiot Dr told us they would not do anything like that while I can make babies by myself. He was a
We went to the discrimination board and its still pending but that is another story.....
Your poor girl, baking away early..... Poor bugger. I feel for her... I feel i'm on the up now so tell her just a couple more weeks...
You have bought all your big things???? Don't even tempt me!
Our pram in in a box in our gym room... I'm not getting it out till after 16 weeks....
We have told our mum's and a few select friends (prob 6). One client knows... My staff knows and that is it.
What about you guys? It's hard for us because we are really social. Meeting friends for drinks at the opera bar, going to dinners and wine tastings and parties. Alot of our friends are DJ's and musicians, so there is always something going on. Also, i have turn tables of my own so if I get a chance to get on some decks somewhere, I jump at the chance. So for us to not be out AT ALL is really weird. i have over 60 photo albums on facebook just from big events from the last 2 years.... Luckily it has been so cold and a little rainy. We are running out of excuses and if it was summer we'd be screwed!
One of my friends is moving to Thailand to care for orphaned tigers and is having a farewell this weekend and I feel awful if I dont go. So I will have to pop my head in... But might take some record s to play, It's hard to talk and drink when you are dj-ing so I wont have to answer too many questions....
How are you getting around the not socializing thing?
It's lovely that the people from the clinic keep in touch....
Where are you having the baby? With an Ob? Midwife clinic? hospital, birthing centre?
have you guys told anyone?
It's one of the hardest secrets to keep....
At my scan next week i'll be 12 weeks and 5 days so maybe i'll feel safe about telling people....
Are you getting any symptoms? For the past 4 weeks on and off, my girl has had extreme fatigue, nausea, aching (.Y.)'s and a funny appetite.... Apparently it's common, especially in lesbian relationships as the women are so connected.... We have all the leso prego books! They all say it. She had to come home early one day. its the first time in 8 years she's had a sick day!
I'm waiting for one of the girls from my forum to get back on here and tell me about her scan. She is the first of 10 of us to have her downs/12 week scan...
Heya mummies to you both (well for you now and for your girl when she arrives home safely)
You guys sound like you are just truly meant to be, and you must have awesome matchmaker besties.
That must be so hard to keep a secret from so many people when you guys are so social. Lucky it is winter and not peak party season.
Being bakers is pretty anti-social working hours so we don't have the same problem as you two. However, we haven't told anyone . The only people that know are the ladies from the clinic. Our families have absolutely no idea, we haven't even told anyone that we were going in for treatment, it's like we've been living a secret life for almost 2 years . Lace is an identical twin, so her sister has been the hardest person to keep the secret from, because they are so close and have that weird "mindreader" twin connection.
We have got an appointment at the hospital in a couple of weeks (it has an awesome reputation for maternity), so if we like what we see and if we felt comfortable then I think that is where we will be going.
It just seems so weird that you had to book in so early, 5 weeks right? We were like "What?" when the girls at the clinic were asking us where we were going to have the baby, we were just so stoked at getting a positive, we hadn't thought that far ahead, I guess cos it almost felt like that day was never going to come.
We have all of the books too , lesbians, we have to know every last detail. But I don't think I have had any symptoms. That's pretty cool that your girl has had some (nice to know, but I guess she isn't feeling to nice)
We are thinking of you on the countdown till your scan, and sending you so many stickyvibes. Glad you are feeling slightly better as each day goes on and wishing you luck for your friends shindig, I hope your plan of attack works for you
hey. I've sent you a few private messages and you haven't replied. Thought you might not have got them if your inbox is full.
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and two, because sea-bands and dough do not mix.
to lace...
. Lace is an identical twin, so her sister has been the hardest person to keep the secret from, because they are so close and have that weird "mindreader" twin connection.
, lesbians, we have to know every last detail. But I don't think I have had any symptoms. That's pretty cool that your girl has had some (nice to know, but I guess she isn't feeling to nice)
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