Gay & Lesbian Pregnancy General Chatter #1

[D&M]

Hello and thankyou for the welcome
Congratulations for the weight loss twomums, its not an easy trip
I'm trying to get a grasp on the treatments some of you are experiencing as i'm not up on it, but I think slowly i'll gain more insight. I thought I might throw a topic up in the air, have any of you have sought legal advise about the legal standing your partner has after the child is born, for example, god forbid, something happens to *the birth mother* and she no longer has the capacity to look after the child? Or even guardianship and surnames etc.
Dan and I have spoken at great length about this topic and have researched a little, by the looks of it, Dan doesnt have much in the way of legal standing, which isnt something we like at all

Gosh I hope I havnt opened a sad can of worms, but I wanted to hear some of your ideas/thoughts and so on..

ok cheerio

[Indadhanu]

Yeah, the 50mg treats me better than the 25mg, or maybe I'm just getting used to it... dunno, but at least I'm not too bad this time, just some hot flashes which are completely managable! Did Kim ovulate on 25mg? Did you try 25mg? I'm a bit nervous because I had great sized eggs on 25mg, and am worried that i will have something like 10 eggs there when we go in for the scan. I know, its a bit extreme, bt I'm a bit nervous considering I responded so well to 25mg IYKWIM.

Is that the fertility drugs making me gain weight! WOOHOO! I have an excuse. I felt like I've packed it on since starting in July, at least now I have an excuse, instead of me sitting here and going "how the heck did that happen!".

Oh boy D&M!
I'm not sure you want to hear our saga with that... we've looked this up... and done a lot of deciding... my parents have outwardly said that when we have kids they would contest if Shel got custody if something happened to me. Which really puts us in a horrible spot... I think if you've got supportive family around, if somehing happens to you, your partner would be able to get custody. As long as the 'blood' relatives agree. If not, theres a WHOLE other road you've got to go down...

We've got to get a will made which will state who i do want to have custody, and I'm also going to put in who I don't want (my parents!). My parents do not know we are actually in the process of TTC, they just think we were thinking about it... I don't plan on telling them when I gt pregnant, and if they ever want to see our child/ren they will have to sign an agreement acknowledging Shel as the other parent, and the rightful full-time guardian if anything should ever happen to me. If they don't sign it, they won' be allowed to see our kids. We're also going to get a parenting order. Something else we are doing is keeping a journal and photo record of our time together and TTC, to prove, if it ever needs to be proved, that we intended on doing this together.

I'm changing my surname to Shel's surname... I personally don't like my surname as a constant reminder of my father...