Leasha,

Thankyou so much for that, it has given me a different perspective on things. You sound like you have been through the works with your family. Mine was very similar when me n sel first got together and then it was mainly mum. We have been together since oct 2006 so now she is kind of getting the used to the idea that her little girl isn't going to have the life she dreamed of and is much more friendly to sel. Then I was having a chat with her 'hypothetically speaking' asking what she would think if we ever had a baby and the response was somewhat negative quoting things like 'i'd still like the baby but it's just not natural' and wanted to change the subject quicker than you could blink. This just confirmed my thoughts about her hidden thoughts that still remain about me n sel. I have learnt that you cannot control other peoples feelings on what lifestyle you wish to lead and you also cannot....as you said leasha...live a fantasy thinking everything is fine either. The most important thing is that we are happy in the life we are living and thats all that matters. I used to try and please everybody else but now know that isn't possible. I am very close to my older sister who is ever so supportive of us and us having a baby, she is the only one of us who has a couple of little ones and very excited about becoming a first time aunt lol.

I just want to thank all of you for your friendly gestures and support so far, you sound like beautiful loving people and look forward to getting to know you better

Leanne xxx