Mum and....mum?

[sasha]

Another question, though. When you have a baby, does the love for your partners change? Do you love them differently...do you love them less? My DP is my entire world...I can't imagine that changing when a baby comes along!

It's a funny thing, it's a different kind of love that you have for your children than you have for your partner (sorry, that's kind of stating the obvious, isn't it?) I mean, when S was born, I really fell in love with him and it surprised me. It was a real change for M and I and our relationship, and I think we had to work hard to make time for each other and probably sort out our roles a little. Everyone is different, though... now, I love how he is with them and experience has shown me that he's not that helpful with newborns but he makes up for that with being awesome with the other two now they're older.

[trishalishous]

Mum and Mummy until the little darlings hear a visitor use your given names and decide to use those instead

I say mum and mum (or tummy mum for my biological mum) but will use my other mums first name in 3rd person.
however my mums only partnered after us kids were teenagers, (my father passed away when we were kids)

[~Lashes~]

I do think you're right though - Mum is a special word and we both want to use it. Another question, though. When you have a baby, does the love for your partners change? Do you love them differently...do you love them less? My DP is my entire world...I can't imagine that changing when a baby comes along!

yep, mum sure is a special word! (even when they get older and use it repeditivly just to annoy!!) i cant see any problems with you both using mum, you will know who is being referd to or shouted out at!
my ds1 currently favours "oi you" but hes a bit of a cheeky at the best of times!
as for dose your love change, i found i had a deeper love for him once kids were added in, and the fact that he helps heaps with the kids just adds to it, even now, 6 years and almost 4 kids on, he dose stuff that makes me realise just how much i do love him and how strong it realy is. (oh god that sounded realy sappy!-shoot me now!) i guess it never realy changed, just kind of intesified!
good luck, i hope everything gose to plan quickly for you!!

[Aligater]

just wanted to pop in and say hi and good luck

[kah]

Wow, it's so interesting how many different varieties of parental roles we all use! Yeah, I think we'll both go with both being mum...no doubt it'll evolve, like you've all said, with time into whatever our kids want to call us!

We had a chat with our lovely donor friend and told him that we were wanting to maybe start trying rather sooner, but his wife wants to have kids to him first, which is perfectly understandable but still...@#$@%#$#@$!!! It's taken me so long to talk DP into doing it sooner and now this! Mrrr Hehe, ah well, good things come to those who wait, they say, haha