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[dreamrise659]

Hi Obi,

The bad news is that it gets harder in lots of ways. You start to feel less hopeful the more negatives you get and that in turn apparently effects your chances of success so it becomes a negative cycle.

When did you get what you thought was implantation bleeding and how heavy was it? Have you had any blood tests to confirm that you weren't pregnant? The reason I ask is because possibly you may have had what is called a chemical pregnancy (very early miscarriage). Blood pregnancy tests will show this up (the day after your period was due) as they'll show certain hormone levels are higher than normal but not high enough for you to be pregnant. My first IVF round resulted in a chemical pregnancy. The next 2 were BFN.

The other thing is with getting your period still test (blood test is best). A friend of mine (who used IVF) got her period but the clinic insisted on a blood test. Her hormone levels indicated it might have been a chemical pregnancy so she had to have more tests a couple of days later to confirm - but her hormone levels were rising. More blood tests... it took a week before her hormone levels were high enough for the clinic to confirm she was indeed pregnant but throughout this time she had what appeared to her to be a normal (though at the lighter end of normal) period.

When I heard this it got my hopes up about my very light period that I had after my last cycle... but alas blood tests confirmed I wasn't pregnant.

If you start getting blood tests done and you do have a few chemical pregnancies then you can see a fertility specialist about getting hormones which are designed to support the pregnancy (reduce the risk of another chemical pregnancy) you'll then stay on these for the first 12 weeks of the pregnancy if you actually fall pregnant to reduce the chance of miscarriage.

I've been told that donor insemination takes an average of 6 to 8 cycles with perfect timing and everything else perfect so don't get too upset yet. If you have 6 unsuccessful attempts then it might be time to get your donor's sperm checked and have some tests yourself.

Best wishes - I know what a huge emotional rollercoaster it is and expensive when you need to take time off work and travel etc.

Lori
Started donor search Dec 2006, Started donor inseminations Jan 09, Started IVF Feb 10.

[Pepi-bebe]

Kia ora & hello,

Happy to find this forum as there seems to be no gay & lesbian groups or even threads on the NZ pregnancy forums. It's so weird to feel like the only lesbian out of thousands of women on them! However this forum doesn't look like its all that busy, I hope I'm proven wrong! I find the NZ ohbaby one a great support network, but just super straight!

I'm 34 & my partner is 32 & we are currently on our 4th home insemination attempt, we call it the DIY approach ;-) I got pregnant on the first go, with only 2 inseminations in one day. Not ideal timing but was our only otion for that cycle, incredibly somehow it worked! But sadly I miscarried at 12 weeks. That was back in late October. We've tried twice since then to no avail.

Our donor is my darling partner's brother, he has been staying with us (from the Caribbean for 5mths), but sadly goes home in a fortnight. So this cycle is our last of trying until we can afford the around the world flights to bring him back again.

Fingers crossed that we are successful again this time and that the baby survives till full term.

We can't use the fertility clinic for IUI, Which was our plan, as his sperm just doesn't survive the freezing! Not used to the cold I guess! We can't afford IVF at around $10k per cycle.

We are not keen on an anonymous donor as in our cultures knowing who you are is really important. We do have someone else that may be willing, but after experiencing being pregnant with a child who would have nearly the exact same DNA as my partner, you realize how amazing that is. So we really want to do that if it all possible.

Looking forward to being a part of this community hopefully. It's hard to be completely open about our situation on the general forums as they are so public & the last thing you want when grieving for your lost baby is someone saying you shouldn't have had it anyway. Not that I had that happen, but I didn't feel comfortable enough to expose myself to any negativity.

Take care, I'm off to read some of the other topics.

[Charlotte91]

Trust me, i don't think there is anyone here who will expose you to negativity because of your situation.

I'm so sorry you lost your angel. How heartbreaking.

Welcome to BB!
I hope to see you around the forum.
Where abouts in NZ are you? My mum is from there, so I've there 8 times. And my sister recently moved there, about 2 hours north of Auckland to my mum's hometown.

[Pepi-bebe]

Trust me, i don't think there is anyone here who will expose you to negativity because of your situation.

I'm so sorry you lost your angel. How heartbreaking.

Welcome to BB!
I hope to see you around the forum.
Where abouts in NZ are you? My mum is from there, so I've there 8 times. And my sister recently moved there, about 2 hours north of Auckland to my mum's hometown.

Oh I'm sorry I didn't notice your reply straight away!
We live in Auckland now, but are moving about 1 hour North of the city in April.
In other good, well great news actually, we are pregnant again!
Yippee.

[Sally2]

Welcome Pepi-bebe,

Congrats on your pregnancy, hoping it's a safe & happy one with a beautiful baby in your arms at the end!

Not much activity on these threads at the moment, but there is quite a good community out there, we just don't always check in as often as we once used to